The thing about healing is that it hurts, sometimes even worse than the original wound. Most people think healing is just a “matter of time” or “don’t bring it up,” and while that’s partially true, it also involves an active confrontation with yourself to get where you want to be. When a bone breaks, you set it. When you get scraped, you use peroxide or alcohol. When you get bruised, you endure an ice pack. I don’t mean to take this metaphor too far, but if you only allow “time to heal,” then you could end up with a mangled bone or an infection.